The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)

The Four Tendencies The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better and Other People s Lives Better Too In this groundbreaking analysis of personality type bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do

  • Title: The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)
  • Author: Gretchen Rubin
  • ISBN: 9780525496281
  • Page: 385
  • Format: Audio CD
  • In this groundbreaking analysis of personality type, bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life During her multibook investigation into understanding human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question How do IIn this groundbreaking analysis of personality type, bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life During her multibook investigation into understanding human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question How do I respond to expectations we gain explosive self knowledge She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage effectively.More than 600,000 people have taken her online quiz, and managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people make significant, lasting change The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you ve ever thought People can rely on me, but I can t rely on myself How can I help someone to follow good advice People say I ask too many questions How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask or who keeps telling me what to do With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, productive, and creative It s far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.

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    1. I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat better, I abstain from garbage food because I know I’m not built for moderation.I do all of these things because of suggestions from Gretchen Rubin. So, needless to say, I was very excited to receive a copy of her b [...]

    2. Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything truly reckless as one would think of when one thinks of ppl who are rebellious, and I've always taken pretty good care of my household and family but my personality is rebel, and that means nobody, not even me, can b [...]

    3. The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I’d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions). But that goes with my type though. I’m a Questioner. 2 stars

    4. I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the test, which one was supposed to be my mother shipI still didn't know by the end of the book. But, I did like the understanding she offered when dealing with these different personality types. Overall, this didn't rock my [...]

    5. I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy little rules for everything, and if you follow those rules everything in your life (and everyone else's) will be so much better. Personally, I don't think people are quite so simple, neat or orderly. I saw pieces of myself [...]

    6. I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really impressive people and written some other books on improving yourself and happiness, but that still doesn't make her an expert. The book doesn't provide any research or proof that what she is talking about has any mer [...]

    7. A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categorizes herself as upholder, and goes on to define 3 other categories, all of whom are missing something (either the ability to answer positively to external motivation, or to internal one, or to both of them) compa [...]

    8. I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book—mostly, that I am totally an Upholder—but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working, and playing with them. Some of the examples didn't resonate with me, but overall, this is a good book for anyone who wants to know more about themselves and how to get the best out of themselves and others.

    9. If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus I listen to her podcast (and her sister's podcast) and I get her email updates and read her blog. So I already felt pretty immersed in the Four Tendencies before I read the book, and the book did not deepen my unde [...]

    10. LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly introduced the Four Tendencies in her previous book about habits, BETTER THAN BEFORE. This book takes it to a new level and explains each tendency in detail, analyzes the pros and cons, how the tendencies work together and how [...]

    11. Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it.

    12. I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ‘self-help’ has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ‘psychology’ seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that for sure - but the ‘label’ is a bit unwieldy! Some people love the reductive personality tests, while others don’t find them credible or useful at all. I will say this: the paradigm in this book works for me [...]

    13. This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each tendency type. It explains how to motivate or manage each type. Interesting stuff.

    14. Rubin uses observation to try to classify people and comes up with a simple 2x2 matrix that is presented in “The Four Tendencies”. The two criteria she uses are commitment to self and commitment to others, and she simply divides each of those into two measurements, leans that way or doesn’t lean that way. She acknowledges that these are subjective. After defining these four possible personality states, Rubin describes the way that folks fitting in each of these boxes will act, how they wor [...]

    15. I love Gretchen, but this one is my least favorite of her books. After reading the book, having my husband read the book, and humming and hawing, I can't peg my tendency or my husband's. Gretchen would say I am a questioner because of that, but that chapter did not resonate with me at all. Oh, then Gretchen would say I am a rebel. Again, didn't feel it. I just can't make this framework do the work.

    16. Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101what evidence for the reliability and validity?

    17. This was my first audiobook and it was perfect. As someone who has trouble staying focused, listening to fiction has proven difficult. But the subject matter combined with Rubin's calming voice kept me engaged and interested. Plus, I found this book to be incredibly helpful -- I'm for sure an Obliger who falls prey to rebel tendencies when I reach burnout. I feel like now I'm better equipped to establish systems to help keep me accountable and from reaching burnt out so quickly. I highly recomme [...]

    18. I really enjoyed this book, and feel everyone should at least take the quiz in the second chapter to see which type of personality type you fall into. There are basically 4 types. Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. Once you take the quiz, there are chapters for each group. I would describe the book as the five love languages type of book. It was very insightful. Each chapter gives you the qualities of each type. What makes them who they are, what motivates them, and how to deal with the p [...]

    19. I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your life. But in this book, I think she goes too far. In her other books, she's kinda been saying, "I did some research and I tried this stuff out myself. Here's how it worked and what you might try." This book, though, [...]

    20. I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book is just a rehashing of her opinions and insights with no evidence or justification. Gretchen Rubin, perhaps, has not heard of confirmation bias? She only uses her own brilliant insights as proof of her tendencies. H [...]

    21. Great deep dive into the four Tendencies that Rubin identifies in her excellent habit formation book Better Than Before. The info here (and in that previous book) has helped me interact with those close to me in a way that makes for less frustration on all sides.

    22. This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, The Happiness Project, Forty Ways to Look at JFK - in that it looks at the psychology of these broad personality types and provides strengths and weaknesses of each. Rubin argues these personalities are nature not [...]

    23. I loved reading The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin and was fascinated by the four tendencies she has outlined in her book. In no particular order they are: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner and Rebel. You can take the quiz for free online and determine your own tendency; but I'm an Obliger. And it makes so much sense to me. Here's why.According to Gretchen:- Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations- Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose o [...]

    24. Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn’t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into which all of humanity can be divided, and then come up with a quiz and write a book based around your “framework,” simply after having a self-described revelatory and insightful conversation with a friend.No infor [...]

    25. Gretchen Rubin is one of my favorite writers (love her podcast, Happier, too). She combines practical information with helpful insights in ways that are both entertaining and life-changing. The Four Tendencies is a worthwhile investment of your money and moments.

    26. The author opens the book with the observation, “They say there are two kinds of people in the world: those who divide the world into two kinds of people, and those who don’t… I’m definitely the first kind.”In this case, however, Rubin divides the world into Four Tendencies, which she classifies as Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels, based on how people respond to both inner and outer (external) expectations.The result is a graphic of four overlapping circles. “When I mappe [...]

    27. This book is changing my life. My three kids are all different tendencies to me and so is my husband (though we naturally get on well). I've now realised why I find it so exhausting parenting them when they respond to totally different things and very differently to me. I've realised we all have utterly different ways of thinking about everything and why I struggle so much with certain goals and inner expectations (being an Obliger). It's already helping me parent better, harness my strengths an [...]

    28. I'm obsessed with the Four Tendencies and want to talk about it with everyone, so I love that Gretchen wrote a whole book about them. Here she discusses how to identify your tendency (I'm an Obliger, which I've known forever), what that tendencies strengths and weaknesses are, how they relate to others, etc. She also looks at different tendency pairings to dive deeper into the benefits and challenges that you might experience if, say your spouse is the same tendency as you or an opposite tendenc [...]

    29. I'm a huge Gretchen Rubin fan, and I tore through this detailed guide to her Four Tendencies framework. I love thinking about how people respond to expectations, and as a teacher, the tendencies help me reach, motivate, and mentor my students. A great companion to Better Than Before, which is on my favorites shelf.

    30. Very quick read. As I read along, I could see aspects of myself in each tendency. I want to sit with it a few days and retake the quiz. I can see how thinking about tendencies could help in parenting, relationships and at work. Overall I’m happy I read this. But I need to move along now to fiction for the tournament!

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